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This is the blog for my website inalife.com.au. It's funny, and it's helpful and it's about living a life of love with yourself and the world. It's inspired from real life stories from a life lived in balance and a balancing act.
Blessings to you,
Thursday, 13 April 2017
Middle aged spread - the good part
I rang my little brother for his 39th birthday the
other day. We both agreed that 39 is a great age and we also agreed that we’d
not want to be ‘young’ again. Many of us were told when we were in primary
school that these years were the best years of our life. We see billboards of
young, shiny people barely out of their teens and they look in their prime.
They haven’t hit middle age spread yet (or it hasn’t hit them), they are
probably going to work like hell to make sure nothing spreads. But there is
something we need to know, to remember and this is that along with the middle
age spread of the body comes middle age spread of the mind and the heart also.
Simply put, the older we get the more we spread, life actually becomes easier
and here is why.
I had my daughter when I was 40, 18 months later my body is
still not back to its original toned shape. I’m not sure how long ago my mind
started to spread, it was a while ago and it also is not back to its original
toned shape and I can honestly say the same for my heart. It’s all spreading,
relaxing, loosening up… I’ve expanded in a good way.
When we look at our middle aged spread, of the body, it often
likely triggers some unpleasant feelings in us and I think that has to do with
some sort of fear of aging, but it doesn’t have to. What we can do is to see
the middle aged spread in our lives and instead of seeing it as a sign of our
aging and our lives moving past the middle mark… look beyond that to the middle
aged spread of the mind and heart too. This is what I do.
Life becomes easier once the middle aged spread hits us
because we have a much, much better sense of who we are and we more deeply
identify with the inner reality rather than the outer. That is what causes us
stress, when we are younger. The constant looking without to validate what we
feel within. As we age, as we spread we no longer do this. Life becomes easier
and we spread, we loosen a little more each day and each year that goes by.
When you feel stressed, when you feel overwhelmed by life
connect to the gentle expansion of your body, heart and mind. Why grieve the
changes of your body when in fact they are a reflection of a wiser, suppler mind
and heart. Salute your middle aged spread, and exhale.