Friendships that Heal
Friendships
that Heal are a very important influence on the way we feel about ourselves,
the way we respond to the world. Friendships that heal do so by supporting and
lifting us up to the next level in our spiritual development. Who we call our
friends, who we sit with, has a strong influence on the habits and patterns that
we have at the current point in our lives. Friendships that heal are just the
sort of friendships we ought to choose to have in our lives. We all know these
friendships and they are easily recognisable because they are healthy for us in
a most wholistic way.
How do we recognise friendships that heal?
We can spot a friendship that is healing for us
in a number with a number of simple and obvious signs. Friendships that heal do
just that, they heal rather than help us to continue with a pattern of
behaviour, thought or emotion which is actually feeding a negative situation or
habit we have. Here are some of the ways friendships that heal help us to do
that.
Friendships that heal...
* Lift us out
of thoughts, behaviours and emotions which tie us to and increase drama in our
lives.
* They remind us of
who we REALLY are (a spirit being) rather than have us identify with who we are
in ego form.
* They offer us
support and strategies that help us to change and to grow in a positive way that supports of divine actualisation.
* They bring
honesty in a loving way so that we see our weaknesses and transform them.
* The love,
forgive and support rather than judge.
* The
friendship lifts us out drama and judgement, rather than pulls us into
drama and judgement.
Creating
friendships that heal can be a choice for us. We can use discrimination to
choose which friendships we'd like to foster in our lives and we can choose
friendships that heal.
Here are some of the ways we can use discrimination to
choose friendships that heal.
* Know in what
ways we'd like to grow and choose to be around people who foster what'd we'd
like to have more of (creativity, finances, humour, health).
* Know the
patterns we have which do not serve us and choose to be around people who do
not have those same patterns (smoking, lack of motivation, lack of humour).
* Find a group
of people that share similar interests to us, interests we'd like to further
develop (crochet, book club, fitness, art, gardening).
* Keep our
eyes open for people with a greater skill set (or further developed skill set)
than we have and be in their company so we may learn from them.
* Know what
qualities we'd like to develop or deepen within ourselves and be in the company
of those that are strong with these qualities (forgiveness, compassion, honesty, bravery, focus).
Maintaining
friendships that heal. Friendships are a living breathing life of their own and
just as we need to water a plant or feed a pet to keep it healthy, so too do we
need to feed and water our friendships so they too can grow, blossom and
deepen. We can choose to feed our friendships that heal, here are a few ideas.
Rather than
neglecting our friendships that heal, let's water them and give them attention! Just
half an hour a week spent watering our friendships that heal will help every
party (watch less t.v and ring a friend instead, invite a friend that heals to
dinner... even if it is a very simple meal, write a letter or a little card
wishing your friend a happy day).
Notice which
friends you spend your time with and check to see if you are choosing to water the
friendships that heal. Choose to spend more time, not less, in friendships that
heal.
Friendships
are not a one way street, notice what you bring to your friendships that heal
that is of value and give yourself a hug!
Have you got
any other ideas about friendships that heal? What certain friendships in your
life have helped you to become a better person? In what ways did this help you?
No comments:
Post a Comment